Wednesday, November 15, 2006

My Scientology Wedding

I was glad to hear that Tom Cruise picked the same Scientology Wedding ceremony that my wife and I chose when we got married 5 years ago. This was the Double Ring ceremony and during this the minister holds up two rings and asks you to picture the ARC Triangle in the middle as this represents Affinity, Reality and Communication - a vital part of a lasting marraige. A secret to a succesful Scientology marraige is that you have continuously create it. From the Scientology website on weddings:

"When someone begins on that arrangement called marriage, he is getting into something which is, to say the least, adventurous. When a couple get married, they are doing something they know nothing about. And, from all indications, when they have tried it more than once, they know no more about it the second time than they did the first." ...
"Where people are having trouble with marriage, it is because they are expecting it to run on automatic. They think it will hang together through no effort of their own; unfortunately, it won’t. It has to be created."
One part of the wedding vows is that you agree not to let a day dawn if there is a break in that ARC, in other words, if you have an upset, don't let it sit, but instead bring it up with the spouse and resolve the break in Affinity, Reality or Communication before closing out the day.

"Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard isolated the three elements that make up Understanding: A is Affinity—which is the degree of closeness, liking or affection one has for something or someone; R is Reality—which is what we agree on; and C is Communication—which is of course the interchange of ideas between two people.

If you increase any one of these points in your dealing with another person you will have greater understanding with that person. Understanding is, of course, everything in a successful relationship.